Within each and every painful event in our lives lies a beautiful gift that was carefully chosen for us. The gift is often clouded by the pain of the event, but it doesn’t have to be.
Pain is often our greatest teacher.
In many cases, as in my own, it will lead us to a place we would not willingly go on our own.
To illustrate, I will draw on my own experience. For the past ten years I have experienced what most would classify as major traumatic events…divorce, job loss, moving from your home, job loss again. Each and every one of these events was important for the development of my soul consciousness. Each and every one was accompanied by a wonderful, lasting gift.
Here’s what happened…
2004: My marriage ended in divorce after 21 years. In the 18 months prior to the divorce I attempted to save the marriage. I was thinking through my family group mentality which says divorce is not an option. I put myself on an emotional roller coaster trying to save the marriage. It was horrible. I will never do that again.
The Gift: FREEDOM!!!!
Freedom from being micromanaged, freedom from verbal and psychological abuse, freedom to honor myself, freedom to be me, which, without realizing, I had lost. Beautiful, unadulterated freedom!
2007: After my divorce, my best friend and I purchased my marriage home from my ex and me. We shared the home and expenses for 3 years. Then she decided she was ready to purchase her own home. I was initially devastated for too many reasons. After a very short while, as I had practiced, I turned to the positive side of the situation. I accepted my reality and went looking for my new home and purchased a beautiful town house.
The Gift: Even more freedom.
Freedom from the stuff I had accumulated and stored in the big house. Freedom from the care and feeding of the house and nearly 2 acres of property, freedom to just be. I now had a simpler, more streamlined life. I have a home where the landscaping and the pool are taken care of by someone other than me. I realized it was the first time in my life…at 48 years of age…I lived by myself…and I loved it! I savor my solitude.
2008: I was let go from a job I had for 20 years at non-profit company I had a large hand in raising from shortly after its birth. My position was eliminated. This one hurt…big time, but since I had been growing and improving myself since my divorce I had many tools in my tool box to move on and see what was ahead. I created my list of what I would have in my new job…and got most of it.
The Gift: It dragged me kicking and screaming out of my comfort zone.
I landed a job making much more money than my previous job and was working for a large non-profit. I met wonderful people. I had the opportunity to work with and get to know so many different people. I got a better understanding of what people with brain injury, then what people with autism live with on a daily basis. From the individuals supported by the organization I learned resilience, acceptance and humility… learned this one over and over. I also learned how much work I could handle and still be a great leader. I learned lots about other people, but mostly about myself. I learned that I was good at and really enjoyed training/teaching, life coaching and public speaking.
2014: Got fired from the job at a large non-profit. It was quite ridiculous. No real reason.
Since it was such a surprise it caught me off guard. I was devastated from the shock for maybe five minutes…It was in that moment that I decided I did not want to work for anyone anymore. I would only work for the person who appreciated me and my work the most…me. I had never considered self-employment before, always wanted the “security” of the steady paycheck. The illusion of security. That’s funny.
The Gift: Once again….FREEDOM rang loud.
I was free of the one hour commute, free of being on call 24/7, free from having to listen to and placate verbally abusive parents, my brain was relieved by a huge information dump, freeing me of the volumes of information I had to keep track of on a daily basis, free of a supervisor who day by day was micromanaging more and more. Perhaps the best gift was knowing without question, that the Universe had stepped in to pluck me from the situation as it was not healthy for my soul. I had no idea how stressed I was until the weight of the job was gone. Within 3 days I knew what I would be doing. I researched and found EFT and designed a business around helping humans release negative emotions and open up to the life they want with tapping and through public speaking.
Each and every one of us has the power to take control of painful situations in our lives by accepting what happened as just an event, no judgment, it happened. If we don’t burden the event with judgement we can see our way through it with a positive interpretation of what happened. We can see our role in each event.
It may seem obvious, but we actually do have a choice in how we interpret life events.
There are as many interpretations of an event as there are humans. So why not choose to interpret the event in a way to move our lives forward rather than burdening ourselves with feelings of loneliness or helplessness that keep us stuck…running in place and getting nowhere.
Choose the path of growth, the path that moves you and your life forward. You will find yourself smiling…a lot. The lesson…honor and appreciate the painful events in your life. Hold them in gratitude and their gifts will be revealed to you. You are on your way.
Experience personal freedom for yourself
Relief is at your fingertips. You call me at 609.742.4155, or click the button below to contact me today…
For information about my programs please click the link.