Let’s stop for a moment and let that sink in…a life free of judgment.
What would our lives be like if we lost the need to judge everyone and everything? I don’t think we would recognize this life. It is a foreign concept to us.
How can we not judge…how will we make decisions…how will we know what’s good or bad….how is this possible???
Some notes on judgment
Whether we are judging ourselves, others or anything for that matter, we are judging ourselves.
We draw and reflect ourselves in everything and everyone in our lives. Just what is judgment? It’s the process we use to name or classify everyone and everything in our lives in an attempt to organize information.
So what’s the harm in judging things?
When we judge, we put events or people in a box. We have this need to classify instead of just letting things be what they are, without limitation. We think we need to know all the answers. We are uncomfortable when we can’t classify something. We don’t like to be uncomfortable so we judge something to be bad or good.
The thing will remain classified as good or bad in our minds forever unless something happens to change our classification. When we judge things we have decreased the opportunity to look at things as they actually are.
Basically you have limited the potential of this thing to what you have judged it.
The power of stories
When you create a story around an event or a person, a story that may or not be true, you have made an assumption.
What if it’s an assumption about yourself, as our judgments frequently are. We tend to judge ourselves most harshly. We may even feel that we have a right to judge others because we judge ourselves so harshly. Well…I’m the hardest on myself.
How does this make it okay?
So now we have judged ourselves. We begin feeling terrible, we start to suffer because of our own judgment about ourselves. We have created a whole story that we believe to be true. After all we don’t like to be wrong, so we don’t question ourselves. Through the process of judging, we have altered our beliefs about ourselves. We get into a vicious circle of blaming ourselves, then try to ease the pain by blaming others for our terrible situation.
We can all see that this will not end well.
It is equally harmful to judge other people or things/events that happen to us.
We give a negative meaning to events or something someone said to us. We aren’t courageous enough to clarify what the person may have meant or why that thing happened. Maybe we decide the person or event was wrong or bad. As a direct result, we begin to suffer because we have created resentment toward that event or person.
Resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to get sick. It harms us, not them. Since we have decided to create this judgment, we now feel like there is a reason to hold onto resentment. This will get stuck in your energy system and may cause you, not them, illness.
Forgiveness is the key
The only way to undo this is forgiveness…which is difficult for many humans.
It is however, the key to freedom.
So just how do we stop causing ourselves endless grief by our judgments? Awareness.
Slow down, take a breath and pause before you judge. When something happens that causes a reaction it takes about 90 seconds for those feelings to pass. If you react and latch onto the reaction and create an emotion around it will cause the emotion to become sticky. A collection of sticky emotions tend to cause illness.
Now what if the same situation happens and you decide to pause and breathe for a couple of minutes before reacting.
You don’t judge it.
You don’t attach an emotion to it. You don’t disrupt your energy system and turn the emotion to a negative one. The thing passes and you don’t give it another thought. You go about your business without being negatively impacted by the event.
Awareness, awareness, awareness…of your reactions, of the things you may have previously judged, of the freedom that comes when we free ourselves from the need to judge. Bliss. Happiness.
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